Want to change your world and perhaps the world for those around you? So, let’s make a list of the things we want to change… let’s do that on the left-hand side of a blank piece of paper. After making the list, go back and take each desired change one by one. Out to the right, write what you can do to affect the desired change. Then go to the second one, third and so on. When you come to an item where you can not write anything that you can do to effect the desired change, mark it off the list. Those are things you have no control over. Talk to God about these perhaps, but spend no more time or mental resources on these items… it is pointless. You can not change them. Rather, spend your time doing and thinking about the ones where you have written something on the right-hand side of the page. These are things you can change. This is a tool to help in keeping with the Serinity Prayer, is it not. Here is an example.
Two things, 1) you will find out that it is really hard not to be able to write something we can do on the right-hand side. 2) some of those things will be direct changes and some will be indirect changes. The nex to the last item, “People to Love Each Other More” is an example of indirect change. Maybe we can not affect the outcome directly because it deals with how others treat other people. We can, however, show them kindness. That may well, in time, have an impact on how they respond to others.
The first class postage… we can not change. We don’t work for the US Postal Service. We can’t help them control cost, profit margins and product pricing… so, put a line through it and forget it.
You have got to simplify your life. To do that you have to accurately define the problem at hand (things that hinder desired changes), formulate a plan that address that problem, implement the plan and check the progress of your results. And you have to take each one individually. You can not just say I have problems… you have to break them out, one by one and identify what you can do to effect changing them and producing the desired result. Did you hear that… one by one. You can them prioritize them in order of importance and zero in on the one that will make the most difference in your life today. Then the next one and so on. As my mom always said “It’s hard by the Yard… It’s a cinch by the Inch”. One at a time… otherwise you get over -whelemed and noting changes. You will quit because you won’t see progress… and if you never make the change table, you will never get started because you don’t know what to start. Again, take it one step at a time. Do not skip any steps and be diligent and persistent in doing these things daily, weekly etc.
If we will do this exercise, we will see change… positive, desired change. I promise you.